Ghosting, catfishing, and other less-than-ideal situations that arise from online dating have led many singles to swear off dating apps and try their luck the “old-fashioned” way. But before you start mass-deleting your dating apps, consider these tricks and tips for making them work for you, not against you.
Be Strategic in App Selection
Not all dating apps are created equal. So think about what you want out of a relationship and be selective about the number of dating profiles you have active. This allows you to invest more time in building out your profile, making time for deeper conversations, and engaging with the app more often so that your potential matches are more in line with what you’re looking for.
Lower Your Expectations
If you go into every online date thinking it will be love at first sight, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. So instead, lower the stakes. This doesn’t mean you should lower your standards; it simply means you should acknowledge that meeting “the one” takes time.
When you post photos that don’t represent who you are – or what you look like – you’re doing yourself a disservice. Sure, dating apps have a physical element, but when you hide behind filters and photo editing, you hinder your chances of gaining a successful, long-term relationship.
What are you looking for in your online dating adventures? Do you want a serious relationship? Or are you looking for a friends-with-benefits situation? Whatever the reason, be honest about this information with others – and yourself. For instance, if an individual wants a relationship but you don’t, be clear about that upfront.
Ditch the Obligation
Did someone ask you out online that you don’t want to meet in person? Respectfully let them know you’re not interested. Is someone pressuring you to talk about something you’re not comfortable with? Tell them. You don’t owe anything to anyone but yourself.
Be Positive (And Confident)
When using dating apps, it’s easy to fall into negativity, especially if you’re not getting what you want. But rather than dwelling on what’s not happening, focus on what is. Confidence is sexy, and positivity can promote a stronger connection.
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