Effective communication, where couples are comfortable talking to each other about everything and anything, is a fundamental factor in any successful relationship. In this post, we share tips for maintaining communication in a relationship.
Establish How You Want to Communicate
When you are at the beginning of a relationship or at a place where you realize you need to communicate better, the first thing you should discuss is how you want to communicate. Specifically, discuss how you wish to approach disagreements so things don’t get heated.
Speak Gently
It’s natural to feel heated during intense conversations or arguments, but you should make it an active goal not to yell or raise your voice. When you speak in a gentle tone, it is more likely you will be heard and understood. Hold space for each other to be vulnerable. Regulating your emotions when attempting to resolve a problem or misunderstanding goes a long way to ensuring the situation doesn’t escalate.
Listen Actively
Often, when we listen to people, we are thinking about what we are going to say next. But in any relationship, active listening is essential to understanding. Holding space for your partner includes making them feel heard.
Accept You Will See Things Differently
How you perceive a situation isn’t necessarily how your partner sees it. However, acknowledging your partner’s point of view and empathizing instead of attacking will help strengthen your communication.
Ask Questions for Clarification
As you discuss your concerns, ask questions to gain understanding and keep things from escalating. Getting more insight fills the gaps instead of leaping to conclusions. It allows your partner to further explain their views and needs, creating a deeper connection between you.
Avoid Making Assumptions
It is important to avoid making assumptions about how your partner should feel. Just because you would feel a certain way in a particular situation doesn’t mean they do.
Release Fear of Communication
Sometimes, we are afraid to bring up issues or concerns with our partner for fear of their reaction. However, discussing what bothers us or how we want to handle a situation in a healthy relationship can help build intimacy – it isn’t something taboo that we should fear or build resentment.