We get it: When you’re in a new relationship, you’re so smitten that all you want to do is spend time with your significant other – which isn’t a problem – until it is, for your close friends. Spending all your free time with your SO means other meaningful relationships get put on the back burner. The good news is that there are ways to nurture friendships – even while you’re in a serious relationship. Here are some tips.
Make Your Friends a Priority
A tried-and-true way to ensure you make your friends a priority is to carve out time during the week to reach out to friends. Consider setting dates to check in with friends, meet up for coffee, go on a walk, or grab dinner. Honor these times you set aside for your besties, and don’t ditch them last minute just because your bae wants to see a movie.
Easy on the Oversharing
When you’re with the gang, they will want to hear about your whole life, not just your love life. This is especially true if you and your friends are at different life stages. Share some details about your significant other, but don’t leave out work, that new coffee shop you tried, the recent book you read, and so on. And, of course, ask about them.
Careful on the Communication Front
All you want to do is text your boo, but when you’re with your friends, they deserve your undivided attention. Put down your phone and live in the moment.
Master the Art of the Group Hang
This can be a challenge because sometimes personalities clash, but it can be a win-win scenario when executed correctly. Planning group activities means getting the best of both worlds – hanging out with your significant other and your friends. Just make sure you aren’t glued to your SO the whole time.
Don’t Forget What Single Life Was Like
Remember when you were single, and your bestie started dating someone and fell off the face of the Earth? Don’t be that person. Remember how it made you feel and how awesome it would have felt to still feel the love.
Always Be Replying
Don’t ignore your friends’ texts, calls, emails, etc. And don’t forget that a phone works both ways. A check-in text or phone call can go a long way.
Be the One Who Reaches Out
Make an effort to be the first to text the group or suggest plans for everyone. This is guaranteed to make your friends feel included in your life.
Take Responsibility
If the missed text turned into a month without seeing your bestie, take responsibility for your actions and make it up to them. If your friendship is strong, you can rebuild and do better in the future.