Because you and your partner aren’t the same person, there are bound to be moments where you disagree. This is completely normal! And it doesn’t mean you’re in a bad or unhealthy relationship; it just means you need to perfect the art of compromising. Here, we present some tips for how to compromise in a relationship.
Avoid One-Sided Compromises
Compromising means reaching a mutual agreement where no one loses, and each partner is happy with the outcome. However, sometimes one person concedes to more to keep the other person happy. If the compromises continue to be one-sided, eventually, the partner who is always giving more may become tired, frustrated, or even resentful.
Stay You, Value You
Each person needs to maintain their values and beliefs throughout the compromising process. You can find an alternative solution by keeping your partner’s core values in mind when coming to an agreement.
Communication Is Key
Having an open line of communication can solve a multitude of issues. While working out a compromise, it’s important that both partners feel heard and neither feels manipulated or disrespected. Poor, inconsistent communication is one of the biggest red flags in any relationship.
Be Mindful of Your Tone
As you’re coming to an agreement, make sure both parties get to speak their minds without interruptions. It’s also important to avoid sarcasm so that your partner knows you’re taking the discussion seriously.
Sometimes, no matter how much you love a person, understanding their side of a disagreement is really difficult. When this happens, it’s important to take a step back and consider their opinions and feelings. Practicing empathy can go a long way.
What Kinds of Compromises Can You Expect to Make?
How Disagreements Are Handled
Some people need time and space after an argument; others pretend it never happened. Make sure you and your partner understand how the other person operates during disagreements, then compromise about how you will handle them in the future.
Where the Money Goes
If you combine finances in your relationship, there has to be a conversation about where that money goes. It’s not crazy to think compromises might need to be made.
If you plan on having kiddos someday or already have little humans running around, you’ll need to compromise about how you want to raise them. Bedtimes, diets, schools, discipline…you name it!
Your partner may love aviation, and while you love to travel, you don’t care about every airplane you’ve been on. But showing interest in your partner’s hobbies is important in a healthy relationship. And, hey, they should reciprocate your effort, so you’ve got yourself a hiking buddy, a winery plus one, or a pottery pal!