We aren’t going to sugarcoat it: Dating a person with kids from a previous relationship can be a big commitment. But that doesn’t mean that it is impossible. In fact, it can be one of the most rewarding things in the world! You may be feeling an array of emotions right now, with a fair amount of “what-ifs” bouncing around in your head. We’re here to help you navigate these new waters with some helpful tips.
Be Flexible With Your Schedule
We can’t speak for everybody, but the single life is busy enough between work obligations and having a social life. But just wait until you add young kiddos to the mix, especially those that play sports, are in clubs, and need three dozen cookies baked by tomorrow morning. What we’re getting at is that you must be flexible with your schedule and respect their time and yours.
You will enjoy certain picture-perfect moments, like baking those aforementioned cookies together or pushing them on the swings, but not every moment will be straight out of a Hallmark movie. Thinking every day will be like this could set you up for disappointment.
Meet and Greet
Meeting your partner’s kids should not be rushed. And the timeline isn’t up to you. If your significant other wants to hold off on the meet-and-greet for a while, the best thing you can do is be patient and supportive.
Say ‘So Long’ to Spontaneity
If you want to be whisked away on romantic trips in the middle of the week, think again. When you’re dating someone with kids, everything will likely revolve around them and their schedule.
Say you get a call from your partner asking to reschedule your plans because they forgot they are having dinner with their kid and ex. Just the three of them. Are you okay with this? If this scenario makes you jealous or uncomfortable, this may not be the best relationship for you.
Aside from everything we’ve mentioned, there are many other things to consider when someone with kids. Here are some common situations to think about:
- Is it appropriate to show signs of affection in front of the kids?
- Ruined plans due to last-minute schedule changes.
- “Dates” that consist of games, concession stand food, and sitting on the sidelines (watching the cutest kids ever play)!
Have you ever dated someone with kids from a previous relationship? Share your experience with us in the comments below!