A breakdown in communication can give rise to resentment in a relationship, and it’s not just a lapse between you and your husband. The breakdown can be between you and yourself. Check up on yourself before you start blaming your partner. “Have you talked to your partner about the issue? Do you play a part in this problem?” asks Megan Stubbs, a sex and relationships expert. If you haven’t communicated your displeasure and the issue isn’t resolved, your resentment can only grow.
Asking yourself this question isn’t intended to blame yourself but to gain perspective. You may realize that you actually have been trying to communicate that you have a problem. You have been trying to express your feelings. If that’s the case, he should be trying to address your needs and improve. If he doesn’t, you’ll realize the time has come to leave. “Create a plan for how to end the relationship,” Stubbs says. Identifying why you are angry is the first step in figuring out how to move forward.