Deciding how many (or how few) people stand up beside you on your wedding day is totally up to you. There’s no magical number that you have to live up to. But we get it: Choosing the number (and the people) can seem like an impossible task. That’s why our “Tips for Brides” series had to touch on the topic to give you some confidence on the matter. Check out some of our tips below on choosing your bridesmaids.
There Are Reasons to Go Big
A long line of bridesmaids can come in handy and be logical – in certain situations. For example, if you have a large friend group, it’s hard to choose between all your besties, your college roommate, your sister, and your childhood friend. It’s simple: If you have a ton of friends that mean the world to you, then you should have them all up there with you on your special day. It’s easier than having to narrow them down. Another reason to go big is if you need a lot of help. That way, your gals can split up the bridesmaids’ responsibilities and be there to assist when needed.
There Are Reasons to Go Small
Like there are reasons to go big, there are reasons to go small. What’s a major example? If you’re looking to stay far away from drama. Larger groups can naturally create more drama – no matter how close everyone is. So, if managing a bridal party is the last thing you want to do, pick a few of your closest friends and stick with that. You may also want to go small if you’re trying to spend wisely. Buying a bouquet, a gift, and arranging transportation can be pricey. Simply put: Staying on budget is easier with a smaller bridal party.
Pick Your Bridesmaids When You’re Ready
You have to be relatively quick about choosing a date, a venue, and even your dress. But you don’t have to rush to pick your bridal party. Once you’ve asked someone to be a part of your wedding, you can’t necessarily turn back. (Unless there’s a big falling out, but we don’t wish that on anyone.) But seriously, if it takes you a little to decide, so be it. What’s a good rule of thumb? Give your girls at least an 8-12 month heads up to give them time to save money, get their dresses, schedule fittings, etc.
Just Because They Had You in Their Wedding Doesn’t Mean You Have to Have Them in Yours
So many brides believe it’s the right thing to do: Have people stand up for you because you’ve stood up for them. But you should never feel obliged to “return the favor.” People get married at all different ages and times in life. If time has passed and your bond has changed, you don’t have to have someone in your wedding party because you were in theirs.
Who Says You Need a Wedding Party at All!?
Wedding rules have never existed. It doesn’t say that you need to have a wedding party. If you don’t want to select people to act as bridesmaids, you don’t have to! The bottom line is: It’s your choice. Your besties will still be invited to the wedding – and they’ll save money on a dress they’d probably only wear once!