It’s normal to fall out of touch with friends, exes, family members, or other people with whom you’ve had relationships. But there’s a difference between falling out of touch with someone and cutting them out of your life. If you’re torn as to which category a person should fall into, here are a few things to keep in mind.
They Bring Out the Worst in You
You may have a friend with whom you have fun but who ultimately is a bad influence on you or your decisions. When the fun begins to fade, all that’s left is that negativity. Unfortunately, this type of person will rarely allow you the opportunity to get things back on track. If you think you’re in a relationship with someone who brings out your worst qualities, it’s time to cut them out.
They’re a Drain on Resources
Being taken advantage of is a terrible feeling, so if you have a relationship with a person who falls into this category, it may be time to rethink the relationship. The first step is to have the hard conversation with them, but you may need to take things a step further or take some time off from them if a conversation cannot rectify the issue.
They’re Combative or Abusive
Any individual who continually picks fights, is emotionally or physically abusive, or otherwise attempts to damage your reputation needs to be removed from your life. Unfortunately, these types of people can be the most manipulative, talking their way out of situations, gaslighting, and using other tactics to stay in your life. So say farewell and don’t look back!
They Don’t Value You
You know your own worth, and when you’re jeopardizing that for a relationship, whether platonic or romantic, you’re doing yourself a disservice. When you don’t feel valued by someone, that individual doesn’t belong in your life. It’s okay to put yourself first.
They Make You Feel Bad About Yourself
If you’re spending time with someone who leaves you feeling lonely, sad, or just overall bad about yourself, that’s not the type of person you need in your life.
It’s the Only Way You Can Move On
Finally, many of us have been in those on-again, off-again turbulent relationships, whether with friends or significant others. If you constantly find yourself in this vicious cycle with a person, it might be time to reevaluate your relationship before going around again. When you’re stuck in this pattern with someone, one of you probably should make a different decision.
The Bottom Line
Cutting someone out of your life doesn’t have to be a negative thing; you can root for the other person’s happiness and success while recognizing the negative impact they have on you. Still, cutting someone out of your life isn’t to be taken lightly. It requires a clear-headed thought process and careful consideration. Use these tips to evaluate your relationships and move on from the people who are toxic in your life.