Today, we’re talking about the “F” word. That’s right: fake friends. You may think fake friendships were for your playground days, but unfortunately, there’s no age limit regarding ulterior motives or malicious intentions. The good news? You can spot them and try to understand them. Let’s discuss!
Why Be Fake?
Being fake seems like a waste of time to us. But here are a few reasons why someone may be all about it.
Self-Centeredness
Self-centered people care only about themselves, so they tend to be okay with using others to fulfill their goals.
Insecurities
A person with low self-esteem tends to look for validation and attention from others. It turns out that fake friendships can boost their own self-worth.
Narcissism
No surprise here: A narcissist doesn’t value human connection, but they do prioritize their own goals over your feelings.
Psychopathy
A lack of empathy mixed with a disregard for others’ feelings and manipulative behaviors can create a fake friend with psychopathic tendencies.
How to Spot a Fake Friend
If you have a sneaking suspicion that you have a fake friend in your friend group, here are a few ways to spot them:
They’re 50/50
One thing a fake friend is not: dependable. This person comes around when it benefits them. They make excuses and bail when you need them most.
They’re One-Sided
Beware of a person who turns every conversation into one about them, their life, and their opinions.
They’re Extremely Needy
One minute, they’re texting you to ask how life is, and the next, they’re letting you know they used you as a reference and would appreciate a good word from you.
They’re Weirdly Competitive
This type of competitiveness stems from jealousy and can emerge at the strangest times. They try to one-up you or put you down any chance they get.
They’re Draining
People with a negative attitude, need for attention, and judgmental behaviors can leave you feeling drained mentally and emotionally.
The Betrayal Is Strong
The odds of a fake friend being loyal to you are slim. They probably talk bad about you behind your back and may even spread rumors about you.
Celebrate You? Couldn’t Be Them
Fake friends don’t celebrate your wins, accomplishments, or successes. In fact, they downplay these things and belittle you.
Life After Fake Friends
First things first: Know that fake friends are not your fault. But having one can affect you emotionally. They may leave you feeling disappointed, betrayed, angry, and hurt – and even traumatized, depending on how things played out. As you move forward, trust your instincts, set boundaries, and take care of yourself. For every fake friend out there, there are more than a couple of real ones that will love you for you.
Thank you, been there and sorry for anyone who gets hurt by fake friends, Happy day and everything good in all of our lives.