Being cheated on really sucks. You feel betrayed, angry, hurt, embarrassed, and completely heartbroken. The whirlwind of emotions is often accompanied by a bumpy and confusing road to recovery. While these tips can’t fix the situation, they may help you cope better.
Know It’s NOT Your Fault
Some days, you may question whether the whole thing is your fault. But, in reality, people cheat for a number of reasons. While your partner might give you an explanation, you may never fully get that closure. But we can tell you with certainty: It’s not your fault.
Let Your Feelings Flow
Once everything is out in the open, you’re going to deal with a lot of feelings. And, much like grief, they may come in waves. In the same breath that you feel confident about the next chapter of your life, you may feel sadness. Allow yourself to acknowledge the uncomfortable feelings, work through them, and come to terms with them. This is all a part of the healing process.
Surround Yourself With Support
As you work to cope with what has happened, you may feel lonely and isolated. This is where your support system comes in. Surround yourself with friends and family that you feel comfortable opening up to. And don’t be afraid to admit you may need professional help. Therapy is more widely available than ever, so consider checking out the many virtual options.
Accept It
There is no way to sugarcoat this one: You must accept that there will be moments during this process that are just no fun. Relish in the good days and know that even during the darkest moments, there will be light again.
Memory Lane Is a Place to Stroll, Not Live
It is natural to think about the good times or even examine where things went wrong, but Memory Lane is no place to live. Thinking about the past isn’t productive; instead, invest your energy into the future.
Make YOU Number One
If there was ever a time to spoil yourself, now is that time. Watch your favorite movies, order your favorite takeout, and spend time doing the things you love.
Take Care of Yourself
We aren’t just talking about being kind to yourself by watching Bridesmaids on repeat or getting a party pack of tacos; we also mean making sure you’re getting exercise, eating healthy foods, drinking plenty of water, and all the other self care you deserve because these things are vital for a healthy body and mind.
Keep Your Cool
You will be tempted to send a string of angry texts, leave some passionate voicemails, or take to social media to air out your grievances, but it’s never worth it. There are healthier ways of blowing off steam, like hitting the gym, going for a run, or dancing in the privacy of your own home to “Since U Been Gone” by Kelly Clarkson.
Take a Breather From Social Media
Your main priority right now is you. So don’t worry about what anyone else is doing, especially if you’re still friends with your ex on social media.
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