Addiction affects more than just the person with the substance abuse disorder; it affects everyone around them. So, if your partner is newly sober, you’re probably experiencing all kinds of emotions – and that is totally normal. If someone you love is working on their sobriety, here are a few ways to make it easier on both of you.
Establish Sober Living
A drug- and alcohol-free home is crucial during the early stages of recovery, as research shows that people with substance abuse disorders are more likely to be successful when they have a sober living space. Sometimes, all it takes is the sight of an empty bottle to trigger a relapse. Ridding your home of these reminders shows your partner you’re committed to their well-being.
Plan Sober Fun
Recovery entails learning how to have fun without drugs or alcohol. Not only is this important for their sobriety, but it will allow you to spend some much-needed quality time. Revisit activities you used to love, try something new, and research local events.
Check In Regarding Triggers
Your partner may be particularly vulnerable during certain times or occasions. Eventually, these triggers may lose potency, so check in with them frequently to discuss what, if anything, needs to be adjusted so they stay successful in their recovery.
Evaluate Boundaries
It’s not uncommon for partners to form poor boundaries during active addiction and continue them into recovery. So, take some time to identify behaviors that should end, such as taking on extra tasks your partner was not completing, giving up meaningful activities, or avoiding all conflicts.
Don’t Forget About Yourself in the Process
This transition will be a lot on you, too, but don’t be surprised if people forget to check in on you because the focus will be on your partner’s recovery. Pay attention to your own feelings, know they are valid, seek out support groups for loved ones, and practice self-care. In the future, you may want to consider couples therapy; your relationship has probably been through a lot, and it’s okay if you need professional guidance to get back on track.
Explore Treatment Options as You Need
For some, the support of friends and family is enough to get through early recovery, but for others, it may be worth looking into treatment centers. Recognize whether recovery is going well and if you can handle the burden alone. Open and honest communication is vital on this journey.
Don’t Judge
Your partner is probably already facing a lot of guilt and shame. But because addiction is a disease, let them know you understand it’s not their fault and you’re here to help.
Recognize Their Recovery
This sounds almost too simple, but reminding your partner how proud you are of them and how much you appreciate their efforts can go a long way.