While some of us may be guilty of telling a white lie here or there to protect someone’s feelings, we don’t do this habitually. But that’s where the term “pathological liar” comes into play. Whether it’s a friend, family member, or love interest, let’s discuss how we recognize and deal with one.
What Is a Pathological Liar?
In short, a pathological liar is someone who lies compulsively. While they sometimes lie to make themselves out as a hero or gain sympathy, other lies are told for no apparent reason or outcome. Compulsive lying can be a trait of certain personality disorders, trauma, head injuries, or abnormalities in the hormone-cortisol ratio.
How to Recognize a Pathological Liar
Their Lies Don’t Make Sense
When we say their lies don’t make sense, we mean they have no apparent benefit. Oftentimes, pathological liars lie just to lie.
All About the Details
When you witness a pathological liar doing their thing, their story will be dramatically detailed to the point of being suspicious.
They Play a Major Role
A pathological liar is often one of two things in their stories: the victim or the hero. Either way, it works for them. If they are the hero, they get all the praise. If they are the victim, they get all the sympathy. In the eyes of a pathological liar, it’s a win-win.
Almost Too Good
It’s not uncommon that a pathological liar is so good at lying that they start to believe their own stories.
No Questions, Please
Don’t even think about trying to iron out details when it comes to a pathological liar’s stories. They may respond quickly, but they won’t actually be providing answers.
Trust Your Gut
Do you get a gut instinct that a person isn’t being honest? Trust that.
How to Deal
Don’t Get Mad
There is no arguing or reasoning with a pathological liar. As frustrating as it may be, sometimes it’s best just to nod your head and move on.
Expect Denial to Come
Pathological liars want to be the hero or the victim but never the one lying. If you confront them or ask questions, they tend to deny, deny, deny.
Keep in Mind It’s Not About You
It may feel personal, but we promise, it’s not.
Stay Grounded in Reality
It’s not hard to fall victim to a pathological liar – they’ve perfected the art, after all. But keep in mind that you know the truth.