They call the beginning of a relationship the “honeymoon phase” for a reason; it’s when both partners are happy-go-lucky, over-the-top, sensationally in love. You can’t get enough of each other. You put in the work, make up after fights, communicate openly and honestly, and prioritize the other’s feelings.
Unfortunately, for most people, the honeymoon phase doesn’t last forever. Long-term relationships outgrow the “newness” and settle into a comfortable routine. But don’t panic: This transition is perfectly normal! So what can you do to reignite that spark? Here are some creative things to consider.
Share Secrets
Secrets are intimate, and sharing them can make you feel more connected. Whether it’s a secret from your childhood, a scary dream you had, or a wild fantasy you want to explore, a secret confirms that emotional closeness you have with your partner.
Show Appreciation Daily
Pinpoint a time each day to sit down with your partner and tell them a small thing (or a big thing) that you appreciate about them. You could do it at the end of a meal or before bedtime (set a timer on your phone if you need a reminder). Do you appreciate that they did the dishes? Are you thankful that they kissed you when they walked in the door? It could be something as easy as their existence – just don’t hold back.
Do Something Out-of-the-Ordinary Together
Of course, dinner and a movie is nice, but have you thought about exploring outside your comfort zone? Experts say that if you engage in less typical activities, your intimacy and passion for one another will flourish. Go to a sports game. Go bowling. Play golf. Take a cooking class. Go swimming in the ocean instead of just sitting on the beach. Doing something you wouldn’t normally do can increase your body’s oxytocin.
Switch Things Up in the Bedroom.
A routine, no matter what it entails, can get boring. The same thing goes for your sex life. If you and your partner are stuck in the same positions and only having sex in the bedroom, you might consider switching things up. Have sex in the living room or shower. Try a new position. Introduce toys. Romanticize the evening with candles and music. Whatever you do, don’t let your sex life become lackluster. Adding some of that excitement from your honeymoon phase into your physical relationship will bring you closer.
Do you have any tips for reigniting the spark in a relationship? Share them with us in the comments below!