Some men are natural born flirts who can get the attention of any woman, anywhere, any time. Then there’s the rest of us, who struggle to string three words together when meeting a woman we find attractive. You not only want to capture her eye; you want her to like you. Here’s a secret to take off some of the pressure. You don’t have to be the most impressive guy in the room. You just have to be your natural self. Take these tips to make the right moves.
Move slowly.
You know how to work a room at a business event, right? Apply the same principles at the gym or a party when you see a girl you would like to meet. Attempt to make brief eye contact. Don’t get too close as you approach her and stop at a short distance to begin your conversation. Any closer and you may invade her personal space and make her feel uncomfortable.
Smile and say hello.
All successful personal interactions start with a smile. A warm and inviting smile lets a girl know that you are friendly and open.
Show some interest.
Ask her opinion or advice on an appropriate topic. Listen actively to what she’s saying and respond. Don’t jump in when she’s finished talking and change the subject to show off. You would make an impression all right, and it won’t be a good one. Girls are not interested in guys who are self-centered, self-important know-it-alls. They are intrigued by guys who are interested in what they have to say.
Act confident.
You’ve got this, man. There’s no need to be nervous because you find the girl attractive and you want her to like you. Nervous men make women nervous. Don’t overreact with aggressiveness. Act as you would around the women you’ve known for years.
Start small.
You don’t have to ask her out for a date right away. If you go to the same school or gym, chances are good you’ll see her again. Casual conversation will reveal if you share any classes. That can make meet-ups stress free. Does she study at the library or hang out at a coffee shop? If you have mutual friends, you might effortlessly wind up at another party together.
Don’t stalk.
The line dividing casual initial interest from scary pressure is not really so fine. If she doesn’t want to give you her phone number at the first meeting, don’t push. If she can’t come up with a single shared meeting ground, back off. She may already be in another relationship. Other women will be interested in you, and the next woman may think you’re the man of her dreams. You just need to keep looking.
Did we mention you should be yourself?
Getting a girl’s attention can make you feel awkward and totally uncomfortable. There’s plenty of incentive to put on a good show to encourage a girl you like to return the interest. The problem is that girls are put off by false faces. You want her to see you for who you really are. If she is not interested in that person, be happy to look elsewhere. You’re the man of somebody’s dreams, remember?
Make a few more friends.
Go out to more places and meet new people. Get together with buddies and ask if they know a few girls to bring along. Striking up conversations with strangers in friendly settings lets you practice your social skills. You’ll be ready and at ease when one of those strangers strikes your fancy and you want to get her attention.